The word for forgive in Greek means to cut away, to remove.
Forgive means to separate. It is the same word used in the New Testament for DEATH. To die is to be separated. To forgive requires cutting the sin away from one and putting on another.
Forgiveness: Defined: (Greek) APHIEMI- means to remove - to send away, the remission for the punishment due to sinful conduct, the deliverance of the sinner from the penalty.
To forgive is to love. God so loved the world that He gave His son to take away our sins.
To forgive is not an emotional thing it is surgery. Simply look at the sin of those that have hurt you and agree with Jesus, that He bore that sin and the consequence of that sin for that person, whether they know it or not. If you put their sin on the Cross and allow Jesus to bear it rather than you or that person, you will tie the hands of Satan from tormenting you.
We have the power to release other people, which at the same time releases us.
Matthew 18:18 speaks about forgiveness. "Whatsoever you bind on earth will be bound in heaven and whoever you loose on earth will be loosed in heaven." You receive what you don't forgive, memories, thoughts, deeds. You will experience those things. This is a law.
Matthew 18:21-22 says "Peter asked Jesus, if my brother sins against me, how many times must I forgive him? Seven? Jesus said, no seventy times seven." In other words, no limit.
Jesus warns about forgiveness.
Matthew 18:21-35 :: Amplified Bible (AMP)
21 Then Peter came up to Him and said, Lord, how many times may my brother sin against me and I forgive him and  let it go? [As many as] up to seven times?
22 Jesus answered him, I tell you, not up to seven times, but seventy times seven!(1)
23 Therefore the kingdom of heaven is like a human king who wished to settle accounts with his attendants.
24 When he began the accounting, one was brought to him who owed him 10,000 talents [probably about $10,000,000],
25 And because he could not pay, his master ordered him to be sold, with his wife and his children and everything that he possessed, and payment to be made.
26 So the attendant fell on his knees, begging him, Have patience with me and I will pay you everything.
27 And his master's heart was moved with compassion, and he released him and forgave him [cancelling] the debt.
28 But that same attendant, as he went out, found one of his fellow attendants who owed him a hundred denarii [about twenty dollars]; and he caught him by the throat and said, Pay what you owe!
29 So his fellow attendant fell down and begged him earnestly, Give me time, and I will pay you all !
30 But he was unwilling, and he went out and had him put in prison till he should pay the debt.
31 When his fellow attendants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed, and they went and told everything that had taken place to their master.
32 Then his master called him and said to him, You contemptible and wicked attendant! I forgave and cancelled all that [great] debt of yours because you begged me to.
33 And should you not have had pity and mercy on your fellow attendant, as I had pity and mercy on you?
34 And in wrath his master turned him over to the torturers (the jailers), till he should pay all that he owed.
35 So also My heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offenses.
The definition, according to Strongs Concordance, of torturers (the jailers), is:
"one who elicits the truth by the use of the rack 1a) an inquisitor, torturer also used of a jailer doubtless because the business of torturing was also assigned to him to test (metals) by the touchstone, which is a black siliceous stone used to test the purity of gold or silver by the colour of the streak produced on it by rubbing it with either metal 2) to question by applying torture3) to torture 4) to vex with grievous pains (of body or mind), to torment5) to be harassed, distressed."
Who is your tormentor?
It is our experience that satanic beings torment those people who withhold forgiveness. This is the easiest mode of entry for satanic forces to invade humans. Forgiveness is also the easiest way for humans to cut off their influence! We have seen it work in an amazing "cause and effect" manner. It can be like turning on a light switch and the darkness is gone! Some sicknesses can been healed when forgiveness is exercised.
We always pay the penalty for the sin we do not forgive in others.
My opinion is that the unforgiving attendant paid the penalty for the debt that he would not forgive the $20. I base that on the fact that he did not receive the penalty due for his original $10,000,000 debt, being sold into slavery, but for the $20 debt, going to prison and being tormented.
If my assumption is correct, then we should know that we always pay for the sin in others that we will not forgive. We will be tormented with the torment due to them.
You get what you don't forgive; memories, thoughts, deeds, these you will experience here and/or in eternity. This is a law.
Who do you think you are to not forgive?
"I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me" (Galatians 2:20).
If, as the Scripture verifies, you have indeed been crucified with Christ, and He now lives in you; then who are you to keep Him from forgiving?
His very essence is forgiving. That is who He is! If you do not forgive you are denying Him. It is a very serious matter.
If you find yourself in the position of the "contemptible and wicked attendant," you can get rid of it with I John 1:9 which says "If we confess (agree with God's judgment) our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins (take them away from us and put them on Jesus) and cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness."
Larry Chkoreff November, 2002